Holding your newborn baby in your arms and smelling heaven in their hair. Full on body hugs that make you feel love in your toes. Watching your children actually loving each other. All of these and many more will make your heart skip a beat and make you so grateful about being a mother, but what are they NOT telling you? Here is my list thus far. I am sure as the years go on, I will have more to add, but for now...
YOU RUN IN CIRCLES
The minute you get one thing solved and taken care of, there is always something else to do. The more kids you have, the more circles you run, and they start to overlap! Multitasking at it's finest.
YOU FEEL HELPLESS SOMETIMES
Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you cannot fix it. From a broken heart, to a broken head, Life happens and all you can do is hug them tight and pray that the hurt goes away soon. It will break your heart the first time there is a friend issue, or if you hear about how someone made fun of them or excluded them. Sometimes it will hurt you more than it hurts them. Sometimes it will surprise you how fast you will turn into a mother bear wanting so bad to protect your child from life, but in the end, life still happens.
YOU DON'T GET A RE-DO
You WILL say the wrong thing. You WILL do the wrong thing. You WILL make huge mistakes that you wished you could take back. And the best you can do is say you are really sorry, and make promises that you will do better next time.
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS PRIVACY
Not even on the toilet!
SOMETIMES YOUR PERFECT CHILDREN AREN'T PERFECT
and sometimes that is a hard pill to swallow.
YOU HAVE TO LET THEM MAKE MISTAKES
because that is how they learn. You can't make every decision for them, even if you really, really want to. One of the hardest things that you will have to do is step back and watch your child screw up.
And lastly
YOU WILL NOT KNOW YOU ARE DOING A GOOD JOB UNTIL IT'S TOO LATE TO CHANGE HOW YOU DID IT.
I know that until I was grown and had children of my own, did I really appreciate all that my parents did for me, gave up for me, loved me. One can only hope and pray that 20 or 30 years down the road, your child will love how you loved them, and look back with sweet admiration for their superhero mom. I hope mine do.
3 comments:
Well said! Here's another...even though you have graduated high school and possibly college, you will still have many, many, many book reports and projects to do. :)
I know you're a supermom now - you don't have to wait 20 or 30 years. The best way to know how you're doing as a mom is to look at your kids. I don't know how you could have done any better.
I am really pleased with the job you are doing. Yes, it is a job. You do the best you possibly can and then you PRAY!
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